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  • What I’m Reading

    Magnus at Touch the Banner does it and it is egotistic there too.  Therefore I will not make it a title.

    Brianna Altice for one.  She did it more than once for self esteem reasons.  She should not have dressed that way in court and things may have been easier.  Anyway, it is against the law in Utah.

    Next, Snapped on Oxygen.  It is part of their overall business which includes publishing, big-time web interests, and TV.  They pursue these things from all angles, some are good and some are not.  Like Jussie Smollett — an angle is ethnic or homophobic abuse or even “abuse” in general — they can cross some pretty delicate lines.  And that is part of who they are, the more buzzfeed the better.

    Nanette Johnston (McNeal,

    Kevin Ross Johnston,

    John J. Packard)

    This one is around (48 Hours) as well as Snapped and others too.  Snapped hasn’t been around for 25 seasons but since 2004 is still a long time.  The monotone narration is bizarre.  It is tough to watch/better than nothing but the backward videos (not upside down or backward, but something is wrong) on Dailymotion still get through.  Johnston, Billis, and the divorce and kids expert who killed the nursing home owner (Kerri Faye Brown).  There is a theme of women who snapped.

    But it goes beyond that, which is a key reason the shows and stories are so provocative.  Example:  Christine Billis.

    This one has an I’m-so-pathetic-I-need-your-life component.  The case went cold and she was free until OKCupid.  Once again it looks like elected/paid for nothing public officials actually did nothing.  True or not her story of abused, drug addicted, and caring mother worked.

    It all started this week with the Beatrice Six and the town that has to raise taxes to pay the $28 million.

    Youtube tort law.  It is fun to learn about criminal law.  You see these cases where family members ask forever and they say there isn’t a case.  Everyone knows who did it but the decision-makers can’t or won’t commit.  Are they not even trying or are they incompetent?  I can see how in criminal cases there is a higher standard and you only have one chance.  So I’ll go with torts.

     

  • Louis Winthorpe III:
    Listen, do you have any better ideas?

    Billy Ray Valentine:
    Yeah. You know, it occurs to me that the best way to hurt rich people is by turning them into poor people.

    Coleman:
    You have to admit, sir, you didn’t like it yourself a bit.

     

    https://www.cnn.com/2019/02/24/entertainment/r-kelly-bond-sunday/index.html

     

  • I trust Walmart for online purchases and the service is always great.

    I actually said that!

    Boy was I wrong!  The next time FedEx lied and delivered my package to the street and Walmart wouldn’t do anything about it.  Send another one, USPS and it’ll be here in a week.  The great chat system via which I had actually complimented them was bogus.  Boy am I mad!

    I’m kidding.  (EDIT:  I’m also relatively fortunate.  They’re dopey, but delivery seems worse other places.)

    I filed a report with FedEx after seeing the driver said he or she delivered it to the front door and I could see in the snow there were no tracks at all.  I am usually/always mad at FedEx but that does little good so I am only a little mad.

    Actually, I am not mad at Walmart either and I continue to shop at the local store and online.  It was one of those things:  These are their policies.  They sent another one, it arrived in about a week, and now I have two.  I found the other one in the street the next day.

    Anyway, I did compliment them.  It felt good and I would not have done that if I didn’t mean it.  I have done it a few times before for companies when that was based on real experiences.  FWIW, I don’t wrote comments and such online.

    Even though it was a dummy, quickie chat, I suspect if felt good for the person on the other end too.  It probably helps to understand Walmart and their policies, but if you perform legit tasks the online help is really fast, easy, to the point.  I’m talking about damaged packages (I had quite a few when I bought some cleaning liquids and even powders online) and price matches.

    This adds up to a nice place to work.  It is not by coincidence, the higher-ups, procedures, technology and everything else work toward that purpose.  Happy employees, not to mention happy customers, are great to have.  No one wants to get through their day arguing, complaining, and the like.

    That is a good company and a profitable one.

    As an example in reverse, I offer Safeco/Liberty Mutual as an example.  I could write more about them (and I have) but for now I don’t want to complain here; basically, they have an outdated system of live, crummy agents and it hurts everything.  If customers are complaining all the time it is just a bad experience all-around.

    As for Walmart, I think their online selection, pricing, and fulfillment is outstanding   It is modern in terms of technology and customer service.  They stand by their own sales and those from their marketplace.  Of course anything from Walmart itself is easily returned through shipping or a store.  Especially for items you have never seen or tried, it is a great way to shop.

     

    If I ever get around to writing more about myself in the bio here, it will mention more about my career and my love of customer satisfaction. 

  • Bonus clip.

    Something most people don’t know about me: I lived in Detroit, Mich., from ages 10-18 when I married,returning to Tennessee.

    http://www.ajlambert.com/history/stry_scb.pdf

  • It is hard to describe how TV has changed.  This is really good TV.

    Everyone will have their opinions.  These are mine.

    The prosecutors did an average or below average job.  Quinton Tellis is a very bad guy, based on Louisiana and other things.  The defense did an average to good job; they saved him.

    I believe it is clear he had some role.  Whatever happened to the “Jessica kept saying, ‘Mama, these bitches think I’m snitching, and I’m not,’ angle?  I think Ben Chambers, he of the meth arrest and police mechanic job, is a really good guy and father.

    “Hell, that ‘aint justice.”  I don’t like the DA John Champion.  I’m not real fond of the sheriff either.  Let me put it this way, it does not look like a very safe place to be.

    You could even say they twisted the facts.  Or that they don’t even understand them.  They spent a lot of money and lost.  For reasons.  Luckily Tellis is in jail in Louisiana.

    The journey the car keys went through is awful.  I mean, they should be embarrassed.  Just like the killer they should all come clean.

    Tellis is, there is no other way around it, must be removed from society, somehow.

    Excellent, excellent characters and dialogue.  Cultural anthropology TV.

    I didn’t know where Panola County, Mississippi is or Monroe, Louisiana.  It is north, near Memphis.  Apparently there is not much there in terms of jobs, schools, and such.  Wow.  How would you like to have your comings and goings recorded on the M&M gas station video camera?  Oh well, there is always Taco Bell.

    They are really good parents.  They sent her to bible camp to reform.

    Christine Apel, good writer.

  • crazy love

    https://www.cbsnews.com/news/crazy-love-who-murdered-miami-beach-hotel-heir-benji-novack/

    Wow.  What a couple of days.  It started with Onassis, but there wasn’t much there.  American Greed Monday was cancelled so I had to do it myself.  There was the guy, Colin Something, who killed his father and stepmother in Slippery Rock.  Minkow and Petters.  There was the rehash of Pamela Phillips and the discovery of Dying to Belong.   The Highlands Ranch, CO guy with the perpetual grin who killed both his wives; how long do you have to be married to collect spousal social security?  And finally, but not the winner, was Fayed Fatso and Goldfinger, aka e-bullion in Moorpark, CA.  That is a good one.  The woman there, Pam Fayed, appeared to be every bit the equal or better of her husband yet she was stalked and finally killed.  It was brutal and right out in the open.  They had $24 million in the safe in gold and a 200-acre ranch.  He was a slob electrician; she was divorced with a daughter.

    The winner is Narcy Novack.  Of course it isn’t funny at all.  I cannot think of a better title:  Crazy Love.  Maybe Demented, Violent, and Sick, but not love.

    “He was one of those drivers who drove the route from Philly, to New York City, to Washington, D.C.”  the description from the detective sergeant goes.  You can watch the apartment in the show.

    His colleague on the case (Alison Carpentier), you can see it in the screenshot above, retired after the arrests.  It took almost a year after the murder.  The Westchester County detective is one of the heroes in this story.  It took that much out of her, but she was right because it was over.  There was a mountain of evidence and there is no way the trial would be lost.  But the prosecution kicked her off the case.  She had given the third intended murder victim (Benji’s 85-year old mother was the first) $5000 of her own money for safety.

    This was a poor, immigrant family from Ecuador.  Narcy is the youngest of six; Cristobal, the bus driver, is an older brother; a sister wrote the letter early-on to the PD in Spanish detailing the plot and the criminals.

    That is where the high finance was orchestrated, right there on the kitchen table with Western Union money transfers.

    Did they make mistakes, was it the perfect murder?  It was not even close.  Even the motive–money–was not obscure.  It was so completely obvious it only took one year for arrests and two years to go to trial.

    There were money trails, corroborating confessions, photographs and video, credit card receipts. motel records, cellphone data, and more.  It was a clear-cut conspiracy.  Narcy had done it before in terms of a violent attack for money and these murders were planned and attempted multiple times.

    The Miami police department, despite Novack’s very friendly ties, was virtually complicit in the first murder, that of the elder Mrs. Novack.  What about Ft. Lauderdale, don’t they have a police department?

    Anyway, Narcy reminds me ever so slightly, just a tiny, tiny bit of my own mother.

    Or should I say, I have known people like that.  I have known people who you cannot even have a conversation with; everything they say is jibberish.  Clearly they are trying to cover-up some flaw of their own but you cannot really tell what it is.  They are extremely outwardly- and money-conscious.  They are uneducated but smart, or should I say more like perceiving and even relentless.  They know nothing about money or finance, they are just afraid of being poor.  In terms of personal relationships, if they cannot have something or someone, no one can.  Their life really boils down to that one simple point:  if I cannot have it, I don’t want any part of it.  At some point it will come down to a reckoning, all or nothing but I, as the matriarch, have earned it.  I deserve it.  I’m your mother.

    Say what you want about Ben Novack, Jr.  He was demanding and spoiled as a child is not that bad.  As a 10-year old he could and did fire employees at the Fountainbleu Hotel.  He also led a lonely life for a child.  He learned and related to prostitutes.  You could say the same about Gauguin.

    I think Benji was a very hard worker who built Convention Concepts virtually by himself and he was the impetus behind the whole family’s employment and lifestyle.  By every account excluding Narcy’s, he was an outstanding stepfather and role model for May Abad:

    Under Novack’s last will, with Narcy out of the picture, her daughter, May Abad, 38, is designated to receive $150,000, with the balance — and bulk — of his estate left to Abad’s two sons, Marcello, 21, and Patrick, 20, in the form of trusts. Abad also has a third son, Ben, born after her stepfather’s death.

    … I don’t know.  I’ve never heard anything about where these children came from–I mean who the father is–or what her deal is.  She sounds honest and articulate.  Last I read she was seeking some money from the court–it is worth mentioning that she put the kabash legally on quick payouts to Narcy after the murder–for surgery for one of her sons because she is working two jobs and cannot afford it.  They are all pretty helpless and they are after money.  I don’t know.

    Did I mention, they were poor immigrants and Narcy was a stripper?  That is how she met and clung to Ben, Jr.  One of the quotes in one of the shows is “She was promoted to stripper.”  As I mentioned earlier, for her none of it was the first time.

     

    https://www.hotel-online.com/News/PR2009_3rd/Jul09_BNovack.html

  • Torrey Green

    the stories behind the accusations

    Annaleece Merrill is someone I don’t want to mess with.  Or should I say mess around with.  Bad joke.  She pops-up quite a bit on Google.

    I’m not entirely sure I follow her journey.  I think religion is a part of it but she does not write about that.  Three jobs is descriptive and there is nothing wrong with industrious effort.  And you cannot go wrong through education.

    “I learned that I could use the coping skills that I had learned to help girls that are currently going through unplanned pregnancies,” she writes and that provides some direction.

    And I fear that studying a little psychology doesn’t qualify you.  It could be difficult given that you love your birth daughter but she is adopted by another person or family.

    The Torrey Green story is an interesting/awful one.  There is a lot about it on on the web.  I remember Auston Robertson at Michigan State.  Never have I seen such an obvious predator and the case against him.

    Very sadly, he is probably going to spend most of his life in prison and that is a result of our (society’s) inability to protect ourselves from him.  It is more a sickness than a crime.  Hooray for the women because they have learned to stand-up for themselves and hopefully protect themselves too.

    For Green it isn’t love, attraction, or even dating.  It is like football in that it is aggressive if not violent.  Texting someone you don’t even know for months is very strange.  The whole thing was as premeditated and continuous as can be.  What really was the goal or problem with Torrey Green?

    A very telling sign of something really out of kilter is saying afterward “Don’t report it.”  You shouldn’t have to say that.  You certainly shouldn’t plan to say it or say it repeatedly as an ordinary matter after a “date.”

    What it means, if you follow college sports, is if he gets in trouble he could be kicked-off the team.  He would lose his scholarship and his “career” as a student-athlete.  He wasn’t even a starter for the most part.  He was not an NFL prospect.

    Parts of this story stick out.  First is the long-time predatory behavior which probably goes back to high school.  Then there is the intransigence of the university and police department (see below).  Something else is the unique atmosphere; this is Utah, not East Lansing.  And, as mentioned previously, what really is the mental disorder that Torrey Green is dealing with?

    As for Logan, Utah, what is probably going to happen–what should happen–is Utah State University will be sued for failing to provide adequate and appropriate Title IX resources.  Hopefully the sheriff’s department will receive a wake-up call too.

    The women?  Of course they are victims.  Just look at the trauma.  First, report it even if you know they are not going to do anything.  Next, rest easy that he is behind bars and know that your community is now aware.  You are aware too.  Go ahead and write on birthmom.com if it helps.  You survived and eventually there was support.

    Remember the coping lessons?  Per Annaleece, things can and will get better.

     

  • basketbullets

    First, two things and then maybe more.

    There is a woman I know who I learned a lot from and I tried to help.  I contacted the social workers and psychologists involved to no avail.  I want to get this off my chest.  Our last “talk” was barely talking.  It was really just two people saying loudly what was on their mind.  It was not constructive and there was no point.  From her all I really remember is “What about him, what about him!” referring to her ex and the source of all that ruin.

    I knew what was coming.  “What about you?”

    Is that narcissism?  In the court system and in a big part of her life she got killed.  For some reason it just didn’t work.

    And the thing is, it is completely different when one is on their own.  Kids and a spouse (and dependent family members) make all the difference in the world.

    Second, I wrote a story about 17 years ago about alcoholism in my family.  It was especially for my siblings, to whom I sent copies.  It was pretty upbeat and there was a happy ending, but that part was fiction of course.  For me it was a reckoning as I chose a life away from that; I understood addiction and I decided against it.  Obviously I had to also choose a lifestyle managing and confronting a family that would not change.  Selfish?  I had to for my own survival.  I made every effort not to hurt anyone else in the process.

    For years and still to this day I pondered the notion of How can anyone be so cruel?  How can someone not pay attention?  Only recently have I realized that with alcoholics you are dealing with only a portion of a person because another large part of them is consumed by the addiction.  They’re not whole, and you are fighting for a portion of a portion of their attention, and what is left may be jaded too.  Why no attention?  My attention is consumed elsewhere.  I’m not doing it because it is fun, occasional, or social, I am doing it to reach a different state and place for my attention.

    The two are related, I think.

    Third bullet and to no one’s immediate concern whatsoever.  In online dating I will reply when I know what to say.  I warned you this last part isn’t worth reading for anyone but myself.

     

  • I never do this.  This blog has not been about people who read it, and that was a mistake.

    I have always thought that this website is about me making notes and that the whole thing was for my benefit.  That was wrong.  People read it.  I want them to read it.  It is actually about sharing.

    It is also about becoming a better writer and that is certainly related.  I realize that it is often cryptic and that it is hard for the reader to follow.  I would like to think that I can improve on that.

    I love customer satisfaction.  If I had to name a pet peeve (I suppose there are others), it would be small businesses who say ‘It is my business and I’ll do what I want.’  Maybe that too is a little like sharing, but it is also true that any business works off of customers and reputation.  A bigger business or one with professionalism and more at stake would be more likely to at least get through the transaction.  And they would be a whole lot more likely to have heard it before, want to listen, and to want to improve.

    I have never been inclined to narrate my way through or to explain a lot of things here.  The whole thing was more or less my calendar as I could look back and be reminded of the things I was working on, if you, the reader will.  Occasionally I would refer someone to it because I thought it contained something factual, useful, or helpful; people who know me know this is here.  I do not even know who reads it or finds it as I have turned-off all website statistics.  I believe Youtube and others may use cookies but otherwise there are no cookies.

    All that is no reason not to write for the reader, and write better.  As some have said for many other and different reasons, the time is now.

    As for Steve Gillette, it is a happy song for me.  The song came through loud and clear on an old cassette and I had to look on the internet to find who the singer is.  I probably still have the album, but I didn’t remember.

    What’s more, it proves that the cassette player in the big black Mercedes still works great.  What an amazing song!

    I guess the song is pretty sad, but there’s nothing wrong with memories.  I believe if you try your best to do the right thing and if you make an effort not to hurt people, memories are just fine.

    And there is nothing wrong with wondering.